I'm sending you this email to tell you my story. I am going through a life crisis and my friend advised me to send it to you because your blog posts and viewers have helped other people through difficult situations in the past.
I'm 21 and I'm currently pursuing an engineering degree in University of Middlesex in the UK. I am the second of two kids and my brother and I have lived in England since I was 9. My parents are your average disciplinarians who enforced Nigerian cultural values in us while we grew up despite our geographical location. A couple of days ago I found out that I was pregnant by my long time boyfriend. That unfortunately is not my biggest problem. 2 months ago my brother who is 23 opened up to me about being gay. This as you can imagine was one of the most shocking and traumatic experiences I've ever had. It came out of nowhere and I never even saw it coming. He even has a boyfriend who he has been with for 3 years, it's awful. While my religious views are against homosexuality do I stop loving my brother because he's gay?
My brother has currently finished his educational pursuits and is going back to Nigeria this year to pursue a career. My Dad is extremely homophobic but my brother plans on opening up to him about his sexuality and introducing him to his boyfriend. My dad a man of strong morals is very capable of disowning my brother or worse; reporting him to the police. My mum has a weak heart and has had 2 heart attacks in the past 5 years. I'm scared that with my unwanted pregnancy and my brothers homosexuality we might send her to an early grave.
My life as you can see is currently in shambles. I just need some helpful advice and guidance on what to do because despite not being married I am excited about this baby and I know high levels of stress (from exams, not knowing how my boyfriend would react and my brothers situation) is not good for the baby. I would deeply appreciate any advice you or your viewers have to offer.
Best regards,