(en) Canada, Cause Commune #34 - Emancipate this sexuality that we can not see (fr)

Let me be clear, this text dedicated to us, women, is a call to reclaiming our bodies, our 
fantasies and our sexuality. In addition, it is not intended to moralizing or treatment. 
---- Taboo, smelly, hidden, shameful, frowned, the female sex has long existed in the 
world without a word to explain it. At the turn of the 60s, we have seen manners relax and 
break the nose of what will be called "sexual revolution." But like Elisa Brown says in 
his excellent book The Secret of Women "None of these developments has been able to bridge 
the gap between men's pleasure and enjoyment of women." And even after the Hite report? 
Psychopop and 80s? What has happened in the liberation of our minds so that it does not 
render our privacy? Having conquered a large part of the labor market and educational 
institutions, how can we say that we are free, while many of us are still unable to deal 
with our own bed? Open so the sheets that we find ourselves face to face with our bodies.

Because it is indeed a recurrent finding when one is interested in sexuality: women do not 
know their body or its functioning. Far from me the idea of ??an abstract biology, few 
books dealing with very well. However, it remains that sit with a mirror and see her 
vulva, how it is done, the shape of the lips and the location of the clitoris is a first 
step towards ownership of her privacy. We trimballons still with us for hundreds of years 
and sexuality kills sinners female bodies, there is still very little literature 
(relevant) on the female sex. We are still dealing with sexual education that glorifies 
sex education masturbation among others accepting male masturbation but denies women. So 
we must deconstruct our sex education in order to reconstruct a liberating and open to 
pleasure women in all its forms.

Which brings me also to think about sexual pleasure in itself. It is said that one third 
of women say attain "often or always" orgasm. Which is in itself very little, but the 
result is even more striking when contrasted with that of men, which is measured at 90 or 
95%. This difference, what to say, this gap is definitely not negligible and is evidence 
of the problems faced by women. Abandonment issues, stress, performance issues, 
insecurity, discomfort with his body, apparently causes are as varied as the number of 
unsatisfied women. Finally, this phenomenon persists in my opinion is alarming that we 
talk very little and so many women do not have access to the orgasm is again a difference 
between men and women. And I must say that sexual fulfillment is a fundamental element in 
our quest for freedom and equality.

In addition, I refuse that this March 8, we exclude the excision of this reflection 
summary on female sexuality. The numbers do not decrease and practice exercises even in 
industrialized countries. Women who are circumcised suffer from these barbaric practices 
both physically and psychologically. Operations have no medical way, the number of women 
in necrotic tissue and pelvic pain is unbearable disturbing. But what none of them 
escapes, it is the psychological wounds of having been betrayed and maimed by the family. 
They have really more benchmark. Cut a part of themselves, they find themselves deprived 
of their sexuality. Moreover, it is often a need for symbolic and identity that leads to 
surgical reconstruction of their genitals (whose success is mixed).

If I decided to talk about female sexuality on 8 March, is that I strongly believe that 
our struggle is reflected in all spheres, even (or especially) in our bed. Today, I appeal 
to openness and self-love, the discovery of his body, of his fantasies and desires. 
Because as women, we must now overcome codes pornographic invade and again our sexual 
imagination. They are the testimony of domination persists and prevents the development of 
women.

Several books highly relevant on female sexuality have surfaced at various moments of our 
struggle, and few of them will have occupied after Hite report to demonstrate how massive 
women to talk to their sexuality in order to 'explicitly see the benefits of the sexual 
revolution. Only Eliza Brown has done recently and the results conclude that there is very 
little progress. Thus, it is high time to take our sexuality in hand, to shape our image 
because sex has power: that free us. And finally, do not let most men never write "how to 
make love to a woman" to silence forever the hunter-provider discourse underlying sex man 
/ woman. Allow us to explore other avenues.

Selective Bibliography

BOURCIER, Marie-H?l?ne (2006), Queer Zones Volume 1, Paris, Amsterdam Publishing, 265 
pages (read the other volumes too)

BROWN, Elisa, Ferroul, Yves (2010), The Secret of Women: Journey to the heart of pleasure 
and enjoyment, Paris, Odile Jacob, 320 pages

BROWN, Eliza (2012), The Revolution of female pleasure: sexuality and orgasm, Paris, Odile 
Jacob, 463 pages

Foucault, Michel (1976), The History of Sexuality Volume 1, Paris, Gallimard al. NRF, 211 
pages (read the other volumes too)

HITE, Shere (1977), The Hite Report, Paris, Robert Laffont, 580 pages

And to see the documentary The promise of pleasure, In Search of the point g