August 5, 2010

White Dog and Quinn both gathered around Michael and tried to console him but he was mad and just wanted to be alone and angry. The White Dogs did not understand why needing to wear glasses was such a big deal (since Steve and I and most of our friends are optically challenged) and they were hurt by his rejection. White Dog came and sat on my shoulder and The Other White Dog nervously went outside as Michael stomped around and then finally went to his room.

I tried to explain to White Dog that his special friend had a problem with change, especially when it directly affected his self-esteem. She, and her brother who had just come in from hiding outside, could not comprehend how a couple of lens and a frame could make such a difference. "I didn't get all crazy mad when I had to start wearing a collar and ID tags," White Dog said. "No, but Quinn got so upset at the thought of wearing a harness that he bit me, remember?" I countered, quickly adding, "No offense, Big Boy, I know there were LOTS of extenuating circumstances!"

"I think he is being too sensitive," White Dog insisted. "Maybe he is," TOWD responded, "but I think I understand. He is just afraid that when he LOOKS different he will BECOME different and he already feels out of place in lots of situations." I looked at The Other White Dog with pride and shook my head in agreement. "You are so wise and insightful."

It will take time for Michael to adjust to the change. He picks up his new specs next week right before the beginning of school. I fear I will have to keep pressing the issue of wearing the glasses but we all agreed that we would try to be sensitive and understanding.