What Don't You Tell Your Partner?

As we age, our sexual needs and wishes change. What worked for us before doesn't work for us now. If you're in a relationship, what do you keep private from your partner about what would make sex more pleasurable and satisfying for you? If you're not in a relationship, what would be difficult or embarrassing to tell a new partner?

I keep reading emails and posts on online communities that I frequent from women and men over 50 who have sex and relationship questions, doubts, needs, misgivings that they don't dare talk about with their partners. Are you in this situation? If so, I need to hear from you.

As you know, I'm writing my new book, Naked at Our Age, addressing sexuality concerns of women and men age 50-80-plus. One of the many topics I'm covering is how to communicate about sex. I'm seeking your real-life story about what you're not telling your partner, what you wish you could tell (or ask), what's interfering with being completely honest about sex. If you don't have a partner, what issues would be embarrassing to bring up with a new lover?

I have knowledgeable counselors ready to advise you in my book by addressing your specific concern and offering tips for talking about intimate needs and wishes, especially when you've gone a long time in silence. If you've submitted your story, I'll make sure you'll get a sneak preview of what these experts say.

Please email me with the heading "I don't tell my partner...." I hope you'll post a comment here, but also be sure to email me so I know how to get hold of you.

Thank you!